Wednesday, October 3, 2012
Responding Sensitively
One of the most important things every human being can work on is communicating emotions. We are responsible for so many things in our lives that we forget how to communicate with emotions effectively. I have seen many examples of friends who come up to other friends and rant about their problems. Of course, the other friend comes up with a very common and average response "It'll be okay, just wait it out." This does not comfort the person, it just tells them "Yeah, i heard your story but i can't do much so i'll just tell you that you'll be alright." This concept really spoke to me because i have been in situations just like that and I got sick and tired of responses like that. It is understandable that sometimes we truly have nothing to say but at least try it phrase your sentencing so it gives them the feeling that they have someone there that cares for them. I try, with the best of my ability, to comfort my friends when they are in a time of need because sometimes we really just need a helping hand.
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I agree! Poor communication skills prove responsible for many events in our lives. Just look at the majority of novels written. Most of the conflicts in them are caused by lack of strong communication skills. For example, in Romeo and Juliet, they both died because Juliet did not fully tell Romeo of her feelings and plans. Also, I agree with your statement. I discover myself saying "It'll be okay." to friends often too. I feel useless in their situation; however, I do not know what else to say, and I feel as though that response would be better than silence. Perhaps the reason humans have the most difficult time communciating their emotions is because their own emotions are holding them back.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with you buddy! Emotions are very strong part of communication, and the example you gave about friends is true. I do that to most of my friends because I do not know how I can help them. But I liked the way you try to comfort your friends by just commenting according to their expectations. As you said you are getting tired of the comments it's happening same with me. Therefore, I would try to do that also from now because I think that will make the friendship stronger if we show that we care about the friend and his feelings.