2). Think of an interaction in which you felt disconfirmed or defensive. Describe how others in the situation communicated toward you. How many of Gibb's defensiveness-producing communication behaviors can you identify as present in the situation?
One of most memorable interactions i've had that was disconfirming was when i broke up with my significant other. We were dating for about 2 years and the halt to the relationship was shocking to me even though it was my decision. That night I had a talk with my friend and he gave me a disconfirming environment at first. I think he had his mind on a few other things going on in his life but his first response was "There's plenty of fish in the sea." This struck me pretty harshly and i didn't feel like venting to him anymore. Shortly, he realized what was actually going on and start confirming me more often but the first statement still had its impact. In this situation i believe "Neutrality versus Empathy" was present because he wasn't pushing a certain side. His response was very neutral but thankfully he changed his way of speaking to me to be more confirming.
Hi Ticklemeelmo. I like that username. Those interactions are always hard, the stupid breakupss..... The quote or phrase "there's plenty fishes in the sea" is always use after a breakup to make one feel a little good. I hate that line i mean yeah they are right but thats not what you want to hear right now. It's good that he realized where he messed up by saying that first because after someone says that you just feel sadder. Its good that he started confirming with you instead and just saying dumb lines everyone else says. That is a good quote "Neutrality versus Empathy." Choosing sides aren't good unless you know that someone is completely right.
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